Best Herpes Dating Sites

Below is a list and comparison of several online dating services that are specifically for men and women with genital herpes (and sometimes HPV or other STDs).  This list describes each dating sites’ services, prices, and some pros and cons. Even if you are not yet ready to date again, it can be very comforting and confidence building to see the profiles of the thousands of other single people with herpes who are attractive, nice and normal like everyone else.

Herpes/STD Dating Services	Fees**	Comments
Hwerks.com	1 Month $6 3 Months $18 6 Months $30 12 Months $60	7000+ registered users Features forum, chat, event listings Free to post a profile and look around
PositiveSingles.com	1 month $29.95 3 months $59.95 6 months $95.95	690,000+ registered users 150,000+ daily active members Features online chat and forum Completely anonymous and private Free to post a profile & look around
Hmates.com	1 month  $6 3 months  $15 6 months  $24	13,000+ registered users Free to post a profile & look around
MPWH.net	3 months $25.00 7 months $45.00 1 year$69.00	70,000+ registered users One of the oldest herpes dating sites Features forum and online chat Free to post a profile & look around
AfterH.com	1 month  $7.95 3 months $9.95 6 months $14.95	15,000+ registered users Free to post a profile &look around
STDFriends.com	1 Month  $19.95 3 Months $29.95 1 year $79.95	Great site with easy to use interface 30,000+ registered users Features chat, forums, Hot-Or-Not Free to post a profile & look around
H-Date.com	1 month  $9.95 3 months $19.95 6 months $34.95 1 year $59.95	45,000+ registered users Features a forum Free to post a profile & look around
GenitalHerpesDating.org	1 month $29.95 3 months $59.95 6 months $95.95	580,000+ registered users 100,000+ daily active members Features online chat and forum 100% anonymous and private Free to post a profile & browse
**Fees are as of “last time we checked”   and may not reflect most current prices.

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Herpes Dating Site Statistics

72% of online daters are dissatisfied with their experience.

57% of men who post a profile never receive a single e-mail response.

The typical online dater spends 5.2 hours searching and 6.7 hours reading and writing emails in order to go on one - usually disappointing - date which lasts a little over an hour.

Only 10% of online daters will ever pay for a membership and those that do will typically stay with the dating service for less than 3 months.

For singles who use dating sites: 33% form some kind of relationship, 33% do not, and 33% give up on dating online.

The success rate for online dating sites is less than 10%. Success means that the person leaves the dating site because they found someone.

Herpes dating sites are really no more effective than any other way of meeting people.

The following table lists the most common ways of meeting someone.

Where People Met Their Current Partner	Percent
Work	18%
Through Friends	14%
School	14%
Bar / Club	8%
Social Gathering With Friends	8%
Arranged Meeting / Blind Date	4%
Through Family Members	4%
Place Of Worship	4%
Online Dating Service	3%
Neighbors / From The Neighborhood	3%

You are 25 times more likely to meet someone at work, at school, or through friends and family than you are by using a herpes dating site.

The real issue here is that genital herpes changes the ways that people date and form new relationships.

Here are the fears that can get in the way of pursuing a relationship:

 1. Fear of not knowing how or when to tell someone about your infection
 2. Fear of what they will think of you and how will they react when you do tell them
 3. Fear of being rejected
 4. Fear that they will tell others about your infection
 5. Fear of spreading this virus to someone you really care about

Often when someone first finds out that they have genital herpes they feel like they can no longer meet people in the ways that they used to. This causes many people to turn to herpes dating sites or to stop dating altogether.

But neither of these are effective ways of dealing with the situation.

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Dating With Herpes Singles? – You Are Not Alone!

• This blog provides up-to-date, trustworthy information about genital herpes and dating with herpes.  If you have been recently diagnosed with genital herpes, you may be upset and confused and think your sex life is over.  However, once you settle down and learn the facts, you will realize  that having genital herpes is not the end of the world, and herpes is not the end of  your sex life or your social life. About 45-60 million Americans have genital herpes. You are not alone!   If you do not have genital herpes, but are dating someone with genital herpes, you will find out how to reduce your risk of getting herpes.
• You may wonder – How Did I Get Herpes?  Herpes (HSV1 and/or HSV2) is extremely common.  Statistics estimate that in the USA, between 60-80% of adults carry the HSV1 virus, and approximately 20% of people over 12 carry the HSV2 virus. Percentages may be higher in major metro areas.  Both HSV1 and HSV2 can cause genital herpes.  Most people with genital herpes have infrequent, mild, or no noticeable symptoms, and 90% of them are totally unaware that they even have it.  Other people may display symptoms occasionally or regularly.
• HSV1 is most often associated with cold-sores around the mouth, but can also be transmitted to the genitals via oral sex and is the cause of many new cases of genital herpes.  HSV2 is most often associated with the genital region and very rarely occurs near the mouth.  Sometimes people have herpes outbreaks on their backs, buttocks, anus or thighs, and not around the genitals.  Herpes can be spread even when there are no noticeable sores or symptoms.  Surprisingly, most doctors do NOT include a blood test for herpes even when they are testing their patients for other common STD’s.  Therefore, 90% of people who carry the virus for herpes – don’t even know it!   Unless you specifically request a type-specific herpes blood test, you may not know if you have herpes HSV1 or HSV2 or both.  Ask your doctor for the type-specific herpes blood test!
• Because genital herpes is the most common sexually transmitted disease, there are Herpes Support Groups and Herpes Social Groups in most metro areas in the US and Canada and also around the world!  These Herpes Support Groups and Herpes Social Groups are usually FREE and run by members who volunteer their time to run support groups and organize social events.  Your local or regional Herpes Support Group and Herpes Social Group are one of the best places for you to go to make friends with other people with Genital Herpes, learn how others successfully manage herpes and date with herpes. Who knows - you might even meet someone you want to date.
• There are many online dating services for people with herpes and other STDs.  You’ll find a chart comparing these services at Herpes Dating Online.  If you  are dating people who do not have herpes, you should learn how to tell someone  that you have herpes, and how to reduce your risk of transmitting herpes to your partner(s) or reduce your risk of getting herpes from someone.   The more you know about genital  herpes, the more confident you will be about the choices you make.  For more  information about herpes transmission, diagnosis and  treatment, see our Herpes Links Page.
• Unfortunately, there are various people and companies out there who try to take advantage of people with herpes, with bogus herpes cures or bogus herpes treatments, herpes hoaxes, deceptive and misleading advertising and spam for STD dating services.  For more info, see Herpes Scams.If you have other questions about dating with herpes, please click on Herpes Questions,  and see if your question can be answered there.  You are welcome to submit your own questions, and if we think they are relevant to the larger group, we may post an answer to this site.  Please note, because we are unpaid volunteers with our own busy lives, we cannot and will  not be able to answer each question personally.  But some of the questions people ask may be  answered on our blog.
• This site is a work in progress.  We appreciate your feedback and suggestions and links.  We especially appreciate it if you tell us about broken links or give us links to new articles or research studies or anything else that can help us improve this site and provide better and more recent information to people seeking the most up-to-date, reputable, useful information for people dating with genital herpes.  Thank you for your help!
• Good luck and happy herpes dating!

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Herpes Dating Guide

This blog was created to provide you with the most up-to-date and useful information on dating with genital herpes.

What is the biggest concern for someone after being diagnosed with genital herpes? Here are some interesting statistics.

• 57% upon being diagnosed are concerned with how genital herpes will affect their sex life
• 38% upon being diagnosed are concerned with how easily they can infect someone else

So what can you expect after finding out you have genital herpes. Here are some more statistics.

• 94% feel that genital herpes affects their sex life
• 60% of sufferers have less sex after genital herpes than before
• 64% feel genital herpes makes it difficult to form new relationships
• 58% feel genital herpes has an effect on their current relationship

The biggest concerns for most people with genital herpes involve dating and relationships. For many people it really feels like they will no longer be able to date or find a great relationship.

Here are the most common fears.

• "Nobody will want to date me if they know I have genital herpes"
• "Nobody will stay in a relationship with me once they find out I am infected with the herpes virus"
• "Nobody will ever want to have sex with me again"

Luckily none of these fears are true.

However, in order to safely and confidently date with genital herpes you should definitely know a few things. This site can help you deal with and overcome any issue which genital herpes might create in your dating life. I have organized this site into relevant sections so feel free to start with whichever section interests you the most.

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